For cultures where romances occur through dating, there’s always been one thing good girls didn’t do– have sex. If they did otherwise, they ruined their chances of having anything real with the guy. From meeting at the Coffee machine at the office straight to the bedroom that same night, this is considered promiscuous on the woman’s part. They would be labeled whores or tramps if word got around.

Such thinking continues today, even in Western cultures. Fathers tell their daughters that if they want a husband, they keep their virginity. Meanwhile, boys are encouraged to run wild, with no stigma attached to their promiscuity. If anything, there’s a stigma if they don’t do anything. For many men even in this day and age, trying to loose their virginity is like being on a treasure hunt quest that they must complete – the “prize” being all too evident.

Well, these beliefs are backwards and outdated. Ultimately, anyone that wants to reject a woman because she had sex with them is an ignorant fool, especially if he’s not a virgin himself. The same could also be said for men who get rejected by women because they’re virgins. Indeed, sexuality shouldn’t be a measure of judgment against a person’s character.

But how many men actually think this way? Isn’t it true that most are leery of so-called fast women, even if they are very attracted to them?

Well, here’s the ultimate secret behind men. If they’re really attracted to you, they’re going to continue the relationship whether or not you have sex with them. So, it’s not really the sex that makes or breaks the deal; it’s their initial feeling towards you. Those feelings are of course in the first instance completely guided by first impressions, so this includes the way you act and the way you look. I’m not going to say that looking more beautiful isn’t going to make it easier for you to get a man, because it is, thats why so many people in this country have cosmetic surgery done. It is one of the few industries in this country that doesn’t seem to be affected by the current “credit crunch” climate. However, wether they stay with you in the long term is more about who you are, and how you look has less to do with that – as does wether you sleep with them or not.

Of course, some people believe that men are so primitive that they can only fall in love after sex has been withheld for a long period of time. Again, this is backwards thinking meant to suppress women’s sexuality. While it is true that sex early could take the mystery out of the romance, it could also make it stronger, especially if it was enjoyable.

However, don’t get me wrong– I don’t advocate sex on the first date unless a couple is going to continue to see each other after that first night. If they go their separate ways, and they continue this pattern with other lovers, there’s a risk they could get STDs, (even if they use condoms). And if they don’t use condoms, they could get AIDS and/or create babies– consequences that are not worth the initial moments of pleasure.

With that being said, if you’re a woman who wants to have sex on the first date, it’s best to follow your heart while being aware of the possible consequences. And this goes beyond whether or not the man leaves, but rather your sexual health.