Comedian Rita Rudner said it perfect when she said, “Whenever I date a
guy, I think, “Is this the man I want my children to spend their
weekends with?” There are so many Mr. Wrongs out there and many
times you may not find out until it is too late. Divorce rates are
increasing, so how do you find Mr. Right? Is it in the stars? Should
you try an online dating service? Is there such thing as love at first
sight? No one really knows all the answers, no one really knows any of
the answers. However, here are a few sure fire ways to find the one
that was meant for you.

1. Be yourself. The person that was meant to fall in love with you,
will love you for who you are. Don’t pretend to love bird watching,
just because he loves bird watching, or force yourself to eat turnip
greens, just because they are his favorite. Of course you should try
new things and see if you like them, but don’t change who you are.

2. Don’t be too picky. If you meet someone that is a slob and you
know you won’t be able to deal with it, then he might not be the one for you.
If you hate feet and he won’t stop rubbing his all over you, It might not necessarily mean you have to ditch him, however decide what you like most about him and weigh your pros and cons. You don’t have to find your dream man at one of your companie’s Corporate events to make him worthwhile. If you can find more pros than cons in your man and he works for your local trash company, then he might just be Mr. Right, no matter where you met him.

3. Be Honest! Hiding and telling lies are not the grounds a good
relationship are built on. You want to be able to trust your man, and
you want him to be able to trust you. The best way to do this is to
be honest from the beginning. Just remember, when you ask him “does
this make my butt look fat?” and he says “yes” you can’t be mad. Just
be happy you have found an honest man.

4. Look on the inside. I’m sure your mom taught you that it is what’s
on the inside that counts, or “don’t judge a book by its cover.” That
is true in dating as well. You shouldn’t pass up a good guy because
he isn’t tall enough, or his hair is blond and you like the tall dark
and handsome type. You could be letting your Mr. Right slip right
through your fingers just because he doesn’t work for a beauty pr agency. You might learn to love blond hair if you find out you like everything else about him.

5. Don’t Rush it. You may feel like it is love at first sight and
you need to run off to the courthouse and get married right away. But
what happens in a month when you find out you’ve married the wrong
man. You don’t want to be another divorce statistic. My mother once
told me “don’t marry a man until you know how he would react in every
situation.” I thought that was great advice. Wait on marriage until
you know your partner inside and out. You don’t want to find out
later that he has a bad temper or that he wears women’s high heels
when there is a full moon.

The most important thing to remember is don’t give up, and don’t
settle! I know it sounds corny but everyone has a match out there
somewhere. It just takes some people longer than others to find it.
Stick to your guns and don’t marry just anyone because you think it is
time for you to get married. Good luck on your search and follow your
heart.