Before you go out and get liposuction or botox injections to impress a man, you might want to take a look and some helpful little hints that have nothing to do with the way you look. Often, our physical appearance accounts for the initial attraction and attention a prospective partner gives, but our personality and traits are what kick that relationship staying power into overdrive.

Are you approachable? A lot of men and women, when they are trying to look impressive or “hot” will do the job and THEN some, rendering them completely unapproachable. People like a person they can talk to and are not intimidated by. For example, going to a steak-and-beer type of bar and wearing a suit or evening gown makes you unapproachable. Sitting with your nose buried in a book or elaborate and ornate hairstyles and jewelry would make people feel uncomfortable just walking up to you.

Put yourself out there! Guys or girls, this is not the 1920s. Anyone can approach anyone and stir up some conversation. Sitting back and waiting for the action to come to you will ensure loneliness and a continuation of the single lifestyle.

Slow down. Take one step at a time. You should not be looking for your future husband or wife on day one no matter how old you are getting. There is a lot more to marriage and a happy companionship than just finding someone to fill a “social void.”  Breathe, enjoy the person, and see if sparks fly. Do not be overly critical, but do not be a pushover. Act naturally and give the person a chance to let you get to know him or her.

Bars aren’t the only place to meet someone!  Go to social events that support or are associated with your interests.  For example, an art exposition, photography treasure hunt, or even a bull taming social can be great places to meet people who like the same things you do.  You may have to make a bit of a drive, but there is a social group that meets to talk about SOMETHING you like to do.  Seek out these meetings and mingle.